8 Comments on “Dealing with Moody People”

Niki Martinelli on March 27 said:

Since many people tend to feel the feelings along with the moody person or attempt to fix the problem or to get frustrated when they can’t fix the mood, I really like the way this article separates the moody person’s behavior from the people who have to deal with the moods. I love the download about moody people because it introduces the idea that there is a choice in how you actually feel in the face of someone else’s moods. Remaining calm in the face of moody people was a new concept to me. I used to actually encourage moodiness in others because I enjoyed the power I felt when I could cheer them up, I felt like a wonderfully kind person when I did this but when I couldn’t do it my own mood would plummet and I would get annoyed and feel inadequate as though their mood was a reflection on my inability to change it! I also clearly remember times when I knew that my own moods and behavior had to be controlled and other times where maybe I could get away with looking sad and miserable and getting some ice cream out of it! So your story about Winnie rings true.
girlslocker on April 30 said:

I know this woman. She is cool when she speaks to me. I don’t know that many women. So I think we’re developing a friendship..like ok. that’s cool. Then when I see her I’m ethusiastic and say hi and I’m looking forward to her smile, and she treats me like a leper. What did I do?
And I keep saying hi just hoping she’ll be on the same wave length..but she never is anymore. So whatever. I guess I’ll let her go with love..but it still hurts sort of..and I see her often. So I guess i"ll just say hi and walk by? why are some people so hot and cold? she treats me like a leper. I wish I could stop thinking about it…probably cuz I don’t have other women I can really talk to . whatever. It just hurts sort of.
ovais909 on August 05 said:

This article was great im a moody person, now i noe what my problem are and how I should I deal with them ^^ and what other people think of moody people thx alot
toni on August 08 said:

My common law partner is very moody and angry. I constantly am asking him what is wrong or what he is mad about, I am surprised when he says he isn’t mad. He seems to always have angry scowl not to often is he smiling. We have spoke of why he is always angry and ways that perhaps he may find inner peace, he never sticks to anything. He wants everyone to do things the right way, which he himself doesn’t do. his perception seems very blurred and marrow minded. My question is how to find a long term solution.
Mark Tyrrell on August 09 said:

Hi Toni

Well certainly some people tend to look naturally more moody than others (just as some people appear more “smiley”) I wonder if when you think back has he ever been different? Did he used to look and seem happier? Reading between the lines it seems like he may be prone to being a little “control freakish”.

People who constantly judge and try to control others are generally not too happy as they continually feel disappointed and annoyed when others don’t act as they deem they should. It might help for you to read the dealing with a control freak’ article and also the one on anger. But it might be even better for him to read them. After all you are not responsible (although of course you have to live with) his emotionality. It takes emotional intelligence to be able to first recognize then seek to change one’s own negative counter-productive states and it may be that in order to change he’ll have to develop more EQ (regardless of how intelligent he is in other ways)

All the best

Mark
ish on August 15 said:

how do i deal with my bestfriend? she is so moody but i love her.
Mark Tyrrell on August 15 said:

Hi ish well I think you should focus on using the methods described in the dealing with moody people article as described. It sounds like you already see beyond your friend’s moodiness and can distinguish between her and the moodiness. This is an essential first step. But also take care to look after yourself too; it can be rough and exhausting being around a moody person.

Warm wishes

Mark
nina on August 30 said:

my friend is a moody person.i feel so pressure with her attitude.she’s not changed her moody attitude eventhough many friends of mine has advise her.we even already has a big fight before just because of her moody attitudes. sometimes she just can easily moody just because she does not have enough sleep.it affect me since im closed to her and i dont think it fair for me to stand with her terrible face just for unreasonable reason.after a few years be friend with her now i already decided to break my frienship with her because i cant stand with her attitude.