Dear Mark,
Your words and inspiration have turned up right on Q….‘When the student is ready the teacher appears’.
I have recently lost my father, he died in August 09. I was so busy surrounded by people that new him, talking about the past, what a fantastic man he was, how life is different without him etc that i never went through the ‘grieving process of his loss’ at the time, or for 6/7 months that followed. Then I hit an emotional wall, the realalisation that I had been continually focused on the past left me completely lost in the now and future. I have just come out of the deepest deppression I have ever experienced, under doctors orders I had 5 weeks to sit in it and experience the depths of dispare by reliving my past over and over again. On reflection one of the biggest realisations was that i had to face a future without him and i didn’t even realise that is what I was searching for. Changing the future. I have had to use the power of mind to get over this. I used a pen and note pad to express my negative thoughts, so they were outside of me, it helped me to make sence. I then thought about what he had left here behind, Wife, my Mother, Brother for me and me a Sister to him and his 5 Grandchildren. We all have inherited a part of him, looks, personality, love, family and all the other multitude of things he gave us as gifts. I send him my love and prayers regularly and ask him for little signs that he is still here. I ask him for his protection, love and guidence whilst we are appart. Times when I put in a request I hear a song, see a feather or a random conversation gives me his response. I asked him for a sign just recently. I went into a bank, I had put it off for a while, there on the wall was a waterfall picture, he always painted waterfalls, the next picture was an eagle, he didn’t as far as i know have an affinity with eagles but it was there. I sorted out my business and left. To make sure i was listening the eagles were playing on the radio when i got back to the car, he loved the music group the ‘Eagles!’ How can I not have a positive future when life all around us is alive? When the past and future exist, its all a mater of being in the here and now. Finding balance helps us be who we are now. We experience and learn with every breath we take. I have adjusted to the change of Dad not being here physically and live with his total guidence from spirit instead, I was just waiting for the signs!!! P.S Sorry about all the spelling errors in here but things just flowed and I need to go and pick up my Son, my Fathers Grandson from school Much love x
I do not believe in letting go of the past. It is imperative that we learn from it. For, if we don’t, then the awful things will just happen to you over and over, again and again. I have learned this the hard way. Oh, yes, I love that phrase : Forgive and Forget. I have learned that this is most often said by people who have done something to you that they desparately want you to forget. When you do, they are then given permission to do it to you again. I have experienced this from my siblings. They are all much older than I: 15,11 and 8 years. I no longer allow them into my life because of their past horrid behavior towards me. I also do not allow them anywhere near my children so that the bad behavior they bestowed upon me can then be bestowed upon them. And, each of them, in their own time and way, has proven me correct not only to me but to my husband and to my children. I see alot of self serving foolishness in your analysis above. Self serving for those who are abusive and addictive. Not in the least bit helpful to those who are abused and been the recipient of bad addictive behavior of others.
Natasha on June 16 said:
Dear Mark,
Much love x
Your words and inspiration have turned up right on Q….‘When the student is ready the teacher appears’.
I have recently lost my father, he died in August 09. I was so busy surrounded by people that new him, talking about the past, what a fantastic man he was, how life is different without him etc that i never went through the ‘grieving process of his loss’ at the time, or for 6/7 months that followed. Then I hit an emotional wall, the realalisation that I had been continually focused on the past left me completely lost in the now and future. I have just come out of the deepest deppression I have ever experienced, under doctors orders I had 5 weeks to sit in it and experience the depths of dispare by reliving my past over and over again. On reflection one of the biggest realisations was that i had to face a future without him and i didn’t even realise that is what I was searching for. Changing the future. I have had to use the power of mind to get over this. I used a pen and note pad to express my negative thoughts, so they were outside of me, it helped me to make sence. I then thought about what he had left here behind, Wife, my Mother, Brother for me and me a Sister to him and his 5 Grandchildren. We all have inherited a part of him, looks, personality, love, family and all the other multitude of things he gave us as gifts. I send him my love and prayers regularly and ask him for little signs that he is still here. I ask him for his protection, love and guidence whilst we are appart. Times when I put in a request I hear a song, see a feather or a random conversation gives me his response. I asked him for a sign just recently. I went into a bank, I had put it off for a while, there on the wall was a waterfall picture, he always painted waterfalls, the next picture was an eagle, he didn’t as far as i know have an affinity with eagles but it was there. I sorted out my business and left. To make sure i was listening the eagles were playing on the radio when i got back to the car, he loved the music group the ‘Eagles!’ How can I not have a positive future when life all around us is alive? When the past and future exist, its all a mater of being in the here and now. Finding balance helps us be who we are now. We experience and learn with every breath we take. I have adjusted to the change of Dad not being here physically and live with his total guidence from spirit instead, I was just waiting for the signs!!! P.S Sorry about all the spelling errors in here but things just flowed and I need to go and pick up my Son, my Fathers Grandson from school
Mark Tyrrell on June 16 said:
Thank you so much for sharing this with us Natasha
Mark
berrymoore on February 04 said:
I do not believe in letting go of the past. It is imperative that we learn from it. For, if we don’t, then the awful things will just happen to you over and over, again and again. I have learned this the hard way. Oh, yes, I love that phrase : Forgive and Forget. I have learned that this is most often said by people who have done something to you that they desparately want you to forget. When you do, they are then given permission to do it to you again. I have experienced this from my siblings. They are all much older than I: 15,11 and 8 years. I no longer allow them into my life because of their past horrid behavior towards me. I also do not allow them anywhere near my children so that the bad behavior they bestowed upon me can then be bestowed upon them. And, each of them, in their own time and way, has proven me correct not only to me but to my husband and to my children. I see alot of self serving foolishness in your analysis above. Self serving for those who are abusive and addictive. Not in the least bit helpful to those who are abused and been the recipient of bad addictive behavior of others.