http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/ en mark.tyrrell@unk.com Copyright 2011 2011-10-06T15:48:01+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-wake-up-bright-and-breezy/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-wake-up-bright-and-breezy/#When:15:48Z Have you ever noticed that the average amount of sleep people seem to need is always ‘five more minutes’? The dreaded alarm goes off or your partner yells at you to WAKE UP! And it’s “just give me five more minutes” - as if 300 more measly seconds will replenish the awakener all they need for the day ahead. Sleep Problems 2011-10-06T15:48+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/5-golden-keys-to-assertiveness-and-setting-boundaries/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/5-golden-keys-to-assertiveness-and-setting-boundaries/#When:09:07Z My girlfriend said she was impressed; but I wasn’t pleased with the way I’d ‘handled’ the situation. For years afterwards (and still now, it appears), I would use this incident as an example of how not to be assertive. Communication Skills 2011-09-13T09:07+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/whats-he-like-then-how-to-understand-different-personalities/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/whats-he-like-then-how-to-understand-different-personalities/#When:09:00Z We’re all interested in human personality and motivation. Personality tests, quizzes, and analysis are massively popular search terms. Sit down in any public space for a little while and eavesdrop on conversations people have about the people in their lives. We all love to talk personality types. Relationship Advice 2011-09-08T09:00+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stop-seeking-approval/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stop-seeking-approval/#When:08:09Z One grave problem with chronic approval seeking is that it leaves you vulnerable to being manipulated by others. People pick up that you’re anxious to please them, that your main priority is that ‘everything be okay’. Another problem with being too eager to gain approval is that it can get in the way of actually being effective in a situation. Social Anxiety 2011-08-18T08:09+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/5-tips-generalized-anxiety-disorder/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/5-tips-generalized-anxiety-disorder/#When:12:19Z You’re being hunted. It’s 20,000 years ago. The terrible truth filters into your prehistoric brain: you’ve become separated from your tribe and are alone in a land packed with predators. Stress Reduction 2011-08-04T12:19+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-read-people/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-read-people/#When:11:40Z People are perverse or - let’s be fair - they can be. You think you read them right and wham! They do something to confound your expectations. Were there any clues you missed? Communication Skills 2011-07-13T11:40+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcoming-perfectionism/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcoming-perfectionism/#When:09:07Z If you really are a perfectionist, you’ve probably already found it troublesome; possibly even a deal-breaker in some instances - a royal road to disappointment and anguish, not to mention impaired relationships. Thinking Skills 2011-06-01T09:07+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stop-self-sabotage-behaviour/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stop-self-sabotage-behaviour/#When:12:28Z People seldom mean to sabotage themselves. It’s not generally a conscious decision to spoil things - and that’s a problem. We can be left with the feeling: “Why did I do that?!” Many of our emotional drivers remain unconscious, which is why chronic self-saboteurs will often use conscious justification (or what seem like excuses) to explain their actions. Personal Productivity 2011-05-10T12:28+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/do-you-have-a-fear-of-commitment/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/do-you-have-a-fear-of-commitment/#When:09:00Z ‘Fear of commitment’ is a well-known phrase. We hear it in the media, as well as use it to describe ourselves or other people who seem chronically unable to decide whether to commit properly to a relationship. Fear of commitment might range from a little uncertainty about your relationship to an absolute terror of ‘settling down’. Relationship Advice 2011-03-28T09:00+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/lose-weight-gain-weight-whats-your-perfect-body/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/lose-weight-gain-weight-whats-your-perfect-body/#When:23:01Z Whether male or female, it seems our modern Holy Grail is the ideal body. We’re all encouraged to idealize physical perfection and to make our own bodies as near to ideal as possible. Of course, the ‘perfect body’ is perceived as different for both men and women. Weight Loss Help 2011-03-19T23:01+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/increase-creativity/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/increase-creativity/#When:09:45Z “Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them.” (Albert Einstein) True creativity is fresh, new, and unexpected. And it can be shocking. Personal Productivity 2010-09-23T09:45+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/improve-your-mood/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/improve-your-mood/#When:09:04Z Chronic moodiness can be a symptom of prolonged stress (in which case dealing with the stress should make you less moody), and blood sugar imbalance or hormonal fluctuations can also affect mood. But it’s also true to say that moodiness can become a way of life, a habit. And whatever the cause of our moodiness, we can all get better at managing our emotions. Stress Reduction 2010-08-23T09:04+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-fear-of-failure/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-fear-of-failure/#When:10:05Z Fear of failure is closely linked to fear of rejection and criticism from others, as well as to procrastination and excuse making. You can always create an excuse not to do anything, no matter how potentially valuable and rewarding. It’s just whether you choose to believe those excuses. Overcoming Fears 2010-08-16T10:05+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/self-help-for-depression/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/self-help-for-depression/#When:10:04Z Feeling depressed is horrible. Depression saps motivation, energy, sociability, optimism, and peace of mind. And what does it replace these things with? Despair, anxiety, regret, ‘restless sleep’, loss of confidence, hopelessness, and exhaustion. Find out what you can do about it, now. Depression Treatment 2010-08-09T10:04+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/no-willpower/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/no-willpower/#When:14:54Z I’m sure you’ve had times when your intentions were good, when you really believed what you wanted to do was positive and for the best…but somehow the actual doing of the exercise, focusing on that project, sticking to that diet, or building that business didn’t really materialize. Willpower matters because it helps make the possible real. Personal Productivity 2010-07-20T14:54+00:00