http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/ en mark.tyrrell@unk.com Copyright 2010 2010-07-20T13:54:23+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/no-willpower/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/no-willpower/#When:13:54:23Z I’m sure you’ve had times when your intentions were good, when you really believed what you wanted to do was positive and for the best…but somehow the actual doing of the exercise, focusing on that project, sticking to that diet, or building that business didn’t really materialize. Willpower matters because it helps make the possible real. Personal Productivity 2010-07-20T13:54:23+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/why-am-i-depressed/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/why-am-i-depressed/#When:08:28:07Z Knowing both how depression works and why you may be feeling a bit depressed at the moment can help you begin to combat it more effectively. The first question I want you to ask yourself is: What is my life lacking at the moment, causing me to feel depressed? Depression Treatment 2010-07-13T08:28:07+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-tell-lying/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-tell-lying/#When:09:54:53Z Research shows that most of us are terrible at spotting a liar, because we have all been trained to look for body language signals that are not actually associated with lying. I want to encourage you to forget all the body language clichés and focus on signs of lying that will tell you the truth. Relationship Advice 2010-06-28T09:54:53+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/let-go-of-the-past/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/let-go-of-the-past/#When:06:05:28Z The present and future didn’t seem to exist for her. I suspected she’d had lots of the kind of ‘therapy’ that feels it’s best to dig continually into the past. What had all that historical focusing actually done for her? Thinking Skills 2010-06-16T06:05:28+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/conversation-starter-talk-to-strangers-with-ease/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/conversation-starter-talk-to-strangers-with-ease/#When:06:05:21Z “Don’t talk to strangers!” To which a pedantic (and annoyingly bright) seven-year-old might reply: “What, never! How about when I’m forty; at a party or having a job interview?” Communication Skills 2010-05-22T06:05:21+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-fear-of-talking-on-the-phone/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-fear-of-talking-on-the-phone/#When:06:05:45Z He wasn’t merely anxious about using the phone; he was terrified. But he had good reason. During his wartime experience in the trenches, a shell had exploded just as he was dialling the telephone. Overcoming Fears 2010-05-08T06:05:45+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-be-more-punctual/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-be-more-punctual/#When:10:02:37Z A lack of punctuality is one of many ways to relay that special little signal: “You don’t really matter!”  Personal Productivity 2010-05-04T10:02:37+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-performance-anxiety/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-performance-anxiety/#When:08:20:19Z Performance anxiety gets in the way of performance because it clutters the mind just when your consciousness needs to be clear and ‘light’. Stress Reduction 2010-04-28T08:20:19+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stop-being-a-hypochondriac/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stop-being-a-hypochondriac/#When:08:19:27Z The paradox of hypochondria is that the sufferer often knows they are a hypochondriac even whilst maintaining they are justified in believing they are ill. Health Tips 2010-04-21T08:19:27+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stop-being-so-defensive/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stop-being-so-defensive/#When:06:05:07Z If we’re caught in an avalanche, it’s a natural instinct to adopt the defensive posture and make like a foetus. But being emotionally defensive as a general strategy is self-destructive. Dealing with Difficult People 2010-04-12T06:05:07+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stressed-about-starting-your-new-job/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/stressed-about-starting-your-new-job/#When:06:05:14Z Starting a new job feels daunting, like the first day in school. The unfamiliarity coupled with the stress of wanting to please can feel overwhelming…and too much stress makes it harder to concentrate and do a good job…causing more stress…! What can you do? Work Skills 2010-04-10T06:05:14+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-victim-mentality/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/overcome-victim-mentality/#When:14:18:35Z When you are proactive and put plans into action, you may find you don’t always have to wait for the ‘cage door’ to open. You may just find you can force it open yourself. Thinking Skills 2010-04-08T14:18:35+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/sibling-rivalry/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/sibling-rivalry/#When:09:52:26Z Sibling rivalry can be complex. You might love your sibling but resent them. What’s more, the intensity of your resentment can leave you baffled: “I’m an adult now; why does it still hurt so much?!” Relationship Advice 2010-04-06T09:52:26+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/antidepressants-dirty-little-secret/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/antidepressants-dirty-little-secret/#When:06:00:41Z I am not anti-medication, per se. But I am against medication that isn’t really medication at all. It wouldn’t matter so much that antidepressants are basically active placebos if the side effects weren’t so potentially nasty and dangerous. Depression Treatment 2010-03-28T06:00:41+00:00 http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/are-you-too-nice/ http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/are-you-too-nice/#When:09:44:22Z Let’s face it: Lois Lane just didn’t fancy Clark Kent, did she? But why not? He was good-looking, gentle, kind, thoughtful, sensibly dressed… Communication Skills 2010-03-18T09:44:22+00:00